Dealing with human is a very exhausting effort.
An effort that you either do or die.
Dealing with stupid people in a large group needed larger and bigger effort. It will definitely brings hell knocking on your door.
You just cannot imagine the things that they ( stupid people in large group) can come up with in order to get what they want and say what they thought.
Naturally, when one deals with stupid people, one will get very agitated and exhausted, either in explaining the situation again and again repeating it more than three times or some who would give you a blank face when you asked on the progress of certain something that was expected from them for months.
Can you scream at them? Nope!
Can you punch them on the face and wake them up from their dream? Nope!
So, what can you do when you needed them yet despised them?
Dispose them? How sure are you the next coming would not be worst than the current one?
Dealing with people from across the sea down south is a very exasperating effort.
It takes a toll on your mind and soul.
It must be their mentality and perceptions about people from my country of birth.
Perhaps it was also due to the economic standing of the people in general.
They can behave so naturally dumb dumb but also can get very tricky should you failed to take notice of your surrounding.
Hearing stories about the conduct of their business people one tends to not proceed but when it come to think about the large opportunity awaiting, one will definitely rush for it.
So when you are in the league, you either make it or just done with it.....
And I'm still contemplating........
Tuesday, 17 March 2009
Keeping up the Malay legacy
Actually i don't really know how to start on this particular subject.
It is a known subject yet I'm finding it difficult to get the right angle of writing this in this post. Nevertheless, i felt so much of 'desire' to jot it down.
Since weeks ago until recently i was quite preoccupied with things, both work and living.
But the work thing is manageable. It just needed focus and it will flow accordingly. Unlike the living thing;...what I'm trying to say here is living in a community.
To be more specific Malay community in small yet close-up group, too close to comfort i thought from the beginning i got to know them. And like i said, work needed focus but dealing with human; it needed patience, and virtue. Failing to do so, one will be sucked in that dumb dumb vacuum compartment in life.
Well, i must admit that this is my first experience having been close to ladies, to be specific malays ladies and to be more detail; housewives. Since day one my being introduced to this small yet 'close' community i gathered a lot of character among them. The character that we will meet along the way in our life and the one that you can just cut off pronto. But when you are living away and the Malaysian way of gathering is meeting more than twice a week with 'pot-luck' is a must thing, i just found myself slowly drawing closer to the 'unwanted situation' in my life.
There would always be the mixture of i-know- all type, I'm well known everywhere type, the kiasu type and the pretentious type, the lying-just to-be-at par type and besides miss goody next door type.
One or two might be behaving like she's the head of the community, a self-elect kinda thing since everyone else don't wanna take the trouble to memorised all the people's hand-phones and house number . Acting i-know- all but wait till they opened up her mouth and one will notice their mental achievement and personal attributes.
Since I'm slacking in this housewives department, and the only opportunity to meet housewives was just as far as my relatives, i was rather 'impressed with their social skills'. They can smile at you and in split second when you turned your head they'll cursed you down to your ancestor.
Mingling is their first priority and selling and exchanging other peoples stories are a must if you want to be accepted in a group. There would always be rivalry. From household items, to cars to jewelleries up to the brand of cloths that one donned.
And the most important thing would always be stories. Failing to exchange other people's stories or even your own will result in you being scrutinised and cynically challenged whenever there's an opportunity to do so, and you'll be cast away. One would also be held back of any updates whatnot.
Thus mingling here is carried out by me out of social obligations; the one that I'm 'forced' to do now.
The funny yet factual bit of the Malay legacy in PHD is they would be lots that would be so ever clever in complaining and assuming and which will later resulted to a baseless prognosis and assumptions. However when it come to the need to speak out their mind; they will be automatically be transformed into miss goody two shoes and behave like sweet seventeen getting first peck from their first love.
The continuation of the Malay legacy in this department will be forever. When asked why they'd rather kept mum when otherwise they blabber things like pop-corns in a hot pan, they'll casually say that it is not nice to make trouble with people. But my concern is it is not so much about making trouble with other people, but rather they enjoyed speaking behind and continue their morning and night gossips.
These are the lots or people that will continue the unhealthy Malay legacy of keeping mum on things that are supposed to be said out without prejudice. And i am sure this attributes shall be brought down to their children and children after them.
As for my case, due to my upbringing and the lack of typical Malay mentality in the family, I'm deem to be very vocal thus very 'kurang ajar' or disrespectful.
But one thing i cannot comprehend was the need of Malays wanting 'so much' to take care of other people heart yet freely and joyfully telling things at the back of each another. Is this also part of the Malay legacy?
Just like one or two of the Malaysian politician being reprimanded because they dare to tell the premier off when he failed to walk his talk. In my previous post i commented on this issue. It seems that no one will be spared if they told the premier off because it is not the Malay thing to do! Huh.....?! Malay? Is Malay very important in Malaysia nowadays?
Is this bullshit if you asked me. I will definetely replied of course, with a big loud YES.
What more can be said?
It happened in the political arena.
It happened in the office which carries the term 'office politics'.
And absolutely it happens among the housewives where ever they might be.
What more can you say about the Malays community.
They are the same wherever you go!
It is a known subject yet I'm finding it difficult to get the right angle of writing this in this post. Nevertheless, i felt so much of 'desire' to jot it down.
Since weeks ago until recently i was quite preoccupied with things, both work and living.
But the work thing is manageable. It just needed focus and it will flow accordingly. Unlike the living thing;...what I'm trying to say here is living in a community.
To be more specific Malay community in small yet close-up group, too close to comfort i thought from the beginning i got to know them. And like i said, work needed focus but dealing with human; it needed patience, and virtue. Failing to do so, one will be sucked in that dumb dumb vacuum compartment in life.
Well, i must admit that this is my first experience having been close to ladies, to be specific malays ladies and to be more detail; housewives. Since day one my being introduced to this small yet 'close' community i gathered a lot of character among them. The character that we will meet along the way in our life and the one that you can just cut off pronto. But when you are living away and the Malaysian way of gathering is meeting more than twice a week with 'pot-luck' is a must thing, i just found myself slowly drawing closer to the 'unwanted situation' in my life.
There would always be the mixture of i-know- all type, I'm well known everywhere type, the kiasu type and the pretentious type, the lying-just to-be-at par type and besides miss goody next door type.
One or two might be behaving like she's the head of the community, a self-elect kinda thing since everyone else don't wanna take the trouble to memorised all the people's hand-phones and house number . Acting i-know- all but wait till they opened up her mouth and one will notice their mental achievement and personal attributes.
Since I'm slacking in this housewives department, and the only opportunity to meet housewives was just as far as my relatives, i was rather 'impressed with their social skills'. They can smile at you and in split second when you turned your head they'll cursed you down to your ancestor.
Mingling is their first priority and selling and exchanging other peoples stories are a must if you want to be accepted in a group. There would always be rivalry. From household items, to cars to jewelleries up to the brand of cloths that one donned.
And the most important thing would always be stories. Failing to exchange other people's stories or even your own will result in you being scrutinised and cynically challenged whenever there's an opportunity to do so, and you'll be cast away. One would also be held back of any updates whatnot.
Thus mingling here is carried out by me out of social obligations; the one that I'm 'forced' to do now.
The funny yet factual bit of the Malay legacy in PHD is they would be lots that would be so ever clever in complaining and assuming and which will later resulted to a baseless prognosis and assumptions. However when it come to the need to speak out their mind; they will be automatically be transformed into miss goody two shoes and behave like sweet seventeen getting first peck from their first love.
The continuation of the Malay legacy in this department will be forever. When asked why they'd rather kept mum when otherwise they blabber things like pop-corns in a hot pan, they'll casually say that it is not nice to make trouble with people. But my concern is it is not so much about making trouble with other people, but rather they enjoyed speaking behind and continue their morning and night gossips.
These are the lots or people that will continue the unhealthy Malay legacy of keeping mum on things that are supposed to be said out without prejudice. And i am sure this attributes shall be brought down to their children and children after them.
As for my case, due to my upbringing and the lack of typical Malay mentality in the family, I'm deem to be very vocal thus very 'kurang ajar' or disrespectful.
But one thing i cannot comprehend was the need of Malays wanting 'so much' to take care of other people heart yet freely and joyfully telling things at the back of each another. Is this also part of the Malay legacy?
Just like one or two of the Malaysian politician being reprimanded because they dare to tell the premier off when he failed to walk his talk. In my previous post i commented on this issue. It seems that no one will be spared if they told the premier off because it is not the Malay thing to do! Huh.....?! Malay? Is Malay very important in Malaysia nowadays?
Is this bullshit if you asked me. I will definetely replied of course, with a big loud YES.
What more can be said?
It happened in the political arena.
It happened in the office which carries the term 'office politics'.
And absolutely it happens among the housewives where ever they might be.
What more can you say about the Malays community.
They are the same wherever you go!
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Pertuduhan terhadap enam orang pembahas blog semalam atas tuduhan menghina Sultan Perak menjadi satu lagi mercu tanda bagi dunia blog Malaysia.Mereka dituduh di tempat berasingan di bawah Akta Multimedia dan Komunikasi 1998.Peristiwa ini sekali gus menamatkan andaian bahawa blog, pemblog (blogger) dan pengomen adalah bebas dan di luar kawalan undang-undang.
Secara peribadi, saya telah sejak sekian lama berulang kali mengingatkan masyarakat blog, sama ada pemblog atau pembahas, agar berhati-hati dan sentiasa menghormati undang-undang.Tetapi nasihat seperti ini bukanlah mudah diterima kerana ramai pemblog, pembahas dan pembaca percaya bahawa blog adalah bebas dan tidak ada siapa yang boleh bertindak ke atas mereka.
Apatah lagi majoriti pemblog dan pembahas adalah bukan wartawan dan tidak terlatih di bidang undang-undang.Malah ada di kalangan pemblog wartawan dan mereka yang fasih mengenai undang-undang pun ramai berasa seolah-olah mereka di luar kuasa undang-undang.
Di kalangan pembahas pula, majoriti adalah orang muda dan anggota biasa masyarakat yang penuh emosi dan mengulas untuk melepaskan geram.Dalam rancangan “Perspektif Kita” keluaran saluran satelit Astro Awani baru-baru ini, saya memberi kata dua bahawa tidak ada siapa pun di bumi Malaysia ini yang terlepas daripada kawalan undang-undang.
Saya mengingatkan pemblog bahawa mereka tertakluk kepada semua undang-undang negara, khasnya yang berkaitan penyebaran maklumat dan propaganda, seperti Akta Hasutan, Akta Keselamatan Dalam Negeri dan Akta Rahsia Rasmi.Setidak-tidaknya pun mereka boleh dikenakan tindakan sivil seperti saman malu.
Malah saya mengatakan bahawa menulis di dinding bangunan atau tembok pun boleh diambil tindakan jika mengandungi unsur-unsur di atas dan penulisnya berjaya dikesan.
Atas alasan dan kesedaran itulah saya dari awal-awal lagi menyatakan dalam pengenalan blog ini bahawa “we wish to maintain a high level of integrity and responsibility among our participants”.(Kita berhasrat mengekalkan tahap integriti dan tanggungjawab yang tinggi di kalangan peserta kita.)Dan dalam setiap posting baru, saya mengulangi pesanan bahawa “ulasan yang mengandungi unsur fitnah, hasutan, perkauman dan bahasa kesat tidak akan disiarkan.”Saya juga tidak melayan komen yang hanya menggunakan pengenalan “anonymous” tanpa nama sebenar atau samaran di bawahnya.
Adalah mustahil bagi saya, para pembahas dan pembaca membezakan antara seorang pengulas “anonymous” dengan pengulas “anonymous” yang lain.Alhamdulillah, tidak terlalu banyak komen seperti di atas yang saya terima. Jadi tidaklah banyak komen yang terpaksa saya tolak.Kesan tindakan mahkamah ini tidaklah semuanya negatif walaupun ia sedikit sebanyak akan menakutkan sesetengah pembahas daripada terus menghantar komen.
Namun dalam jangka masa panjang, saya berharap ia akan memberi kesan positif di mana para pembahas akan berhujah dengan tepat, pintar, waras, berhemah dan bertimbang rasa.Saya sendiri kecewa dengan sikap fanatik segelintir pembahas yang langsung tidak boleh menerima perbezaan pendapat dan sangat emosional. Malah kita yang memberi ruang ini pun dimaki hamunnya.
Sikap mereka bercanggah langsung dengan dakwaan bahawa mereka matang dan demokratik. Elok jugalah pembahas seperti itu diadili oleh mahkamah atau tidak lagi mengambil bahagian di ruang demokratik ini.Peristiwa ini juga membuktikan yang blog ini bukan lagi media pinggiran yang diberikan pelbagai label negatif.
Blog sudah diakui penting dan mula diadili sama seperti media arus perdana.Bagi saya, ini adalah perkembangan yang positif dan akan menjadikan komuniti pemblog lebih bertanggungjawab dan dihormati.
Seperkara lagi, lebih baik pemblog diawasi oleh masyarakat dan diadili oleh mahkamah daripada dikawal dan diadili oleh cawangan eksekutif dan perkhidmatan awam.
Ringkasan Kes Daripada Utusan OnlineChan Hon Keong 26, dituduh bersama isterinya, Khoo Hui Shuang, 27, menghina Sultan Perak melalui laman web http://books.dreambooks.com/duliduli.html yang mempunyai pautan kepada laman web Sultan Perak, www.sultanperak.gov.my. di Permatang Pauh, Butterworth, kira-kira pukul 12.05 pagi, 13 Februari lalu.
Rutinin Suhaimin, 35, dituduh melakukan kesalahan sama menggunakan perkhidmatan aplikasi Internet secara sedar dengan membuat dan memulakan penghantaran komen di alamat http://booksdreambook.com/duli/duli.html yang pada pukul 6.33 petang pada 13 Februari lalu di Kundasang, Sabah.
Nor Hisham Osman, 36, didakwa telah membuat dan memulakan penghantaran komen yang jelik sifatnya di http://books.dreambook.com.web per/dul1.html yang mempunyai pautan kepada laman web Sultan Perak iaitu www.sultan.perak.gov.my.
Perbuatan itu didakwa dilakukannya pada pukul 12.34 tengah hari, 11 Februari lalu di Taman Lestari Perdana, Sri Kembangan, Selangor.
Muslim Ahmad, 54, didakwa atas tiga tuduhan menulis komen menghina Sultan Perak menggunakan perkhidmatan Internet menghina Sultan Perak di Setapak, Kuala Lumpur pukul 2.21 dan 2.27 petang, 7 Februari lalu.Azrin Md. Zain, 33, didenda RM10,000 oleh Mahkamah Sesyen di Kuala Lumpur selepas mengaku bersalah menulis komen yang menghina Sultan Perak.
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Hhmmmmm.........(don't wanna say anything much cause im afraid it will be deemed insulting;-))
Pertuduhan terhadap enam orang pembahas blog semalam atas tuduhan menghina Sultan Perak menjadi satu lagi mercu tanda bagi dunia blog Malaysia.Mereka dituduh di tempat berasingan di bawah Akta Multimedia dan Komunikasi 1998.Peristiwa ini sekali gus menamatkan andaian bahawa blog, pemblog (blogger) dan pengomen adalah bebas dan di luar kawalan undang-undang.
Secara peribadi, saya telah sejak sekian lama berulang kali mengingatkan masyarakat blog, sama ada pemblog atau pembahas, agar berhati-hati dan sentiasa menghormati undang-undang.Tetapi nasihat seperti ini bukanlah mudah diterima kerana ramai pemblog, pembahas dan pembaca percaya bahawa blog adalah bebas dan tidak ada siapa yang boleh bertindak ke atas mereka.
Apatah lagi majoriti pemblog dan pembahas adalah bukan wartawan dan tidak terlatih di bidang undang-undang.Malah ada di kalangan pemblog wartawan dan mereka yang fasih mengenai undang-undang pun ramai berasa seolah-olah mereka di luar kuasa undang-undang.
Di kalangan pembahas pula, majoriti adalah orang muda dan anggota biasa masyarakat yang penuh emosi dan mengulas untuk melepaskan geram.Dalam rancangan “Perspektif Kita” keluaran saluran satelit Astro Awani baru-baru ini, saya memberi kata dua bahawa tidak ada siapa pun di bumi Malaysia ini yang terlepas daripada kawalan undang-undang.
Saya mengingatkan pemblog bahawa mereka tertakluk kepada semua undang-undang negara, khasnya yang berkaitan penyebaran maklumat dan propaganda, seperti Akta Hasutan, Akta Keselamatan Dalam Negeri dan Akta Rahsia Rasmi.Setidak-tidaknya pun mereka boleh dikenakan tindakan sivil seperti saman malu.
Malah saya mengatakan bahawa menulis di dinding bangunan atau tembok pun boleh diambil tindakan jika mengandungi unsur-unsur di atas dan penulisnya berjaya dikesan.
Atas alasan dan kesedaran itulah saya dari awal-awal lagi menyatakan dalam pengenalan blog ini bahawa “we wish to maintain a high level of integrity and responsibility among our participants”.(Kita berhasrat mengekalkan tahap integriti dan tanggungjawab yang tinggi di kalangan peserta kita.)Dan dalam setiap posting baru, saya mengulangi pesanan bahawa “ulasan yang mengandungi unsur fitnah, hasutan, perkauman dan bahasa kesat tidak akan disiarkan.”Saya juga tidak melayan komen yang hanya menggunakan pengenalan “anonymous” tanpa nama sebenar atau samaran di bawahnya.
Adalah mustahil bagi saya, para pembahas dan pembaca membezakan antara seorang pengulas “anonymous” dengan pengulas “anonymous” yang lain.Alhamdulillah, tidak terlalu banyak komen seperti di atas yang saya terima. Jadi tidaklah banyak komen yang terpaksa saya tolak.Kesan tindakan mahkamah ini tidaklah semuanya negatif walaupun ia sedikit sebanyak akan menakutkan sesetengah pembahas daripada terus menghantar komen.
Namun dalam jangka masa panjang, saya berharap ia akan memberi kesan positif di mana para pembahas akan berhujah dengan tepat, pintar, waras, berhemah dan bertimbang rasa.Saya sendiri kecewa dengan sikap fanatik segelintir pembahas yang langsung tidak boleh menerima perbezaan pendapat dan sangat emosional. Malah kita yang memberi ruang ini pun dimaki hamunnya.
Sikap mereka bercanggah langsung dengan dakwaan bahawa mereka matang dan demokratik. Elok jugalah pembahas seperti itu diadili oleh mahkamah atau tidak lagi mengambil bahagian di ruang demokratik ini.Peristiwa ini juga membuktikan yang blog ini bukan lagi media pinggiran yang diberikan pelbagai label negatif.
Blog sudah diakui penting dan mula diadili sama seperti media arus perdana.Bagi saya, ini adalah perkembangan yang positif dan akan menjadikan komuniti pemblog lebih bertanggungjawab dan dihormati.
Seperkara lagi, lebih baik pemblog diawasi oleh masyarakat dan diadili oleh mahkamah daripada dikawal dan diadili oleh cawangan eksekutif dan perkhidmatan awam.
Ringkasan Kes Daripada Utusan OnlineChan Hon Keong 26, dituduh bersama isterinya, Khoo Hui Shuang, 27, menghina Sultan Perak melalui laman web http://books.dreambooks.com/duliduli.html yang mempunyai pautan kepada laman web Sultan Perak, www.sultanperak.gov.my. di Permatang Pauh, Butterworth, kira-kira pukul 12.05 pagi, 13 Februari lalu.
Rutinin Suhaimin, 35, dituduh melakukan kesalahan sama menggunakan perkhidmatan aplikasi Internet secara sedar dengan membuat dan memulakan penghantaran komen di alamat http://booksdreambook.com/duli/duli.html yang pada pukul 6.33 petang pada 13 Februari lalu di Kundasang, Sabah.
Nor Hisham Osman, 36, didakwa telah membuat dan memulakan penghantaran komen yang jelik sifatnya di http://books.dreambook.com.web per/dul1.html yang mempunyai pautan kepada laman web Sultan Perak iaitu www.sultan.perak.gov.my.
Perbuatan itu didakwa dilakukannya pada pukul 12.34 tengah hari, 11 Februari lalu di Taman Lestari Perdana, Sri Kembangan, Selangor.
Muslim Ahmad, 54, didakwa atas tiga tuduhan menulis komen menghina Sultan Perak menggunakan perkhidmatan Internet menghina Sultan Perak di Setapak, Kuala Lumpur pukul 2.21 dan 2.27 petang, 7 Februari lalu.Azrin Md. Zain, 33, didenda RM10,000 oleh Mahkamah Sesyen di Kuala Lumpur selepas mengaku bersalah menulis komen yang menghina Sultan Perak.
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Hhmmmmm.........(don't wanna say anything much cause im afraid it will be deemed insulting;-))
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