Tuesday 26 October 2010

Islamic dresscode.

This thought had been with me.

It somehow agitates me to certain extend for I really don't know why.
Maybe it had to do with respect. Respect and take pride in what we do.
Or perhaps a tinge of disgruntlement towards certain group of people- namely women in carrying and portraying themselves as Muslim ladies.

Personally, I think loads of women fell victim in order to fulfil their desperation of being in style, especially wearing head covers, which is more of a style than a must in the recent decade ~~ and are actually clowning themselves especially those women whom were forced to donned cloths that covers all aspects of the 'haram' body parts by their parents or husband, yet they are actually flaunting it but in a discreet Islamic manner.
In a skin covered attire, but body hugging and skin-tight show all manifestation.

Well, in the first place, I admit that I might not be someone anyone would call a good Muslim lady because of my uncovered head and body although I had over the years and after reaching certain age in life chose something accordingly and chucked away all my skimpy dresses and skirts.

What really triggers this thought again, now, was after reading a circular distributed by my daughter's school here on the students dresscode; this after some lack of understanding or just plain dumb parents who made their kids wear something that not suitable for school day dresscode.

One of the photo show a pinafore worn by one Muslim girl. She must be from Indonesia from her feature or if from my own country, then, too bad I might not know her due to my little boundaries I set for myself.
It made me chuckled seeing her photo wearing a pinafore which is just below her knee but she also wear a white head scarf !

What was running through her parents (particularly) the mother's head seeing the daughter wearing that?
What do they or she actually want from her wearing that?
Wear a pinafore or wear a Muslimah type of pinafore?
Then why not get her an ankle long skirt, which would definitely compliment the head cover?

This is the case of a contradicting discipline that is running thru the Muslim world nowadays. It coincide with very evident Islamic realisation among the people (in Malaysia for example, in the 80s, one can hardly find a Muslim secondary school-going girl wear head scarf unlike now, majority wear them and some school in the capital 'force' their Muslim girls to wear a tudung).
Of course there is always better to know that there are higher Islamic realisation in any soceity, but when the understanding of it was not being emphasised, then what is wrong?

The religion itself or the person who admits to the religion?

If one take time learn about other cultures and in the same time observes, it is especially evident among the Egyptian young women especially, their funny 'dress code' or attire, until one actually can point out that they are from Egypt rather than say...Morocco.
This trending of discreet-show- all attire would be shared by other Muslim majority countries except the Gulf. Don't get me wrong. I am not scrutinising or down narrowing that all of them wear as such, but mostly young adults does.
In of course, not forgetting those down around South East Asian Muslim particularly the Malay and Indonesian ladies. One can obviously differentiate the style of hijab-clad women from the other.

Why I call this contradicting discipline?
Well, in my opinion, they are trying hard to instill some 'Islamic' discipline in their young child ( mind you some Indonesian and Malay don their 1 year old girl with head scarves...which is absurd, obviously...) yet in this pitiful case, the girl was 'indirectly' taught that she is allowed to show her legs BUT must cover her head in whatever case it might be. This my friend, if not being properly adviced and taught will somehow be adapted or assimilated by her until she grows up.

What is the relevance?
What is happening to the Muslim society who thought they are implementing a righteous way according to the syariah but are actually dumb in knowing the real way of covering their head and bodies?

How many young ladies out there who covers their hijab but know about the real Islamic head covers apart from the Christians and Jewish way of covering their head?

Don't they have any sense of instilling discipline by doing it across the board according to what actually required in a proper manner.

Or if you, just like me, a liberated Muslim ~ just buy skirts and shorts and gowns for your daughters and at least they won't be living a deceiving life and and might have the consequences of not knowing it until they are adult.
This a sure case of cheating oneself.
An evident of desperation to show others that they are better covered than not.

Just like some of the women I've come to know back in Malaysia who covers their head but wear bustiers under their blazer that obviously showing off her fair-skinned chest, a pretty necklace and a bit of cleavage, or covers their head, but wear skirts without any leggings (which in the first place they are not supposed to wear such mid calf skirt), or wear head covers to work but throw it away and will be bare-headed out of working time, or wear shorts doing gardening (my neighbour) when she actually wear hijab to work!....what is the point of her covering her body at work but go doing her landscape with short shorts and I definitely can make out her 'real body figure' and 'her legs colour and size' ?
Hmmmm....and Im a woman....

People can really be damn funny and complex to me.
I always fail to understand their whys.
And don't talk about the Melayu ladies who'd wear long thick gold necklace (seen once with two extra large pendants, because she's afraid people might not know she got more than one), and one personal case a lady so desperately pull out her white gold necklace (because she claimed that she's a town person just like moi) just to prove a point.

Sucks.
So, if you have the intention of instilling religious lifestyle so you can be better and stronger faith than others, please start by donning a proper attire on yourself first, then evaluate others.

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