By Jody K. Biehl in Berlin
In the past four months, six Muslim women living in Berlin have been brutally murdered by family members. Their crime? Trying to break free and live Western lifestyles. Within their communities, the killers are revered as heroes for preserving their family dignity. How can such a horrific and shockingly archaic practice be flourishing in the heart of Europe? The deaths have sparked momentary outrage, but will they change the grim reality for Muslim women?
Hatin Surucu just wanted to live her own life.
Instead, she became Berlin's latest victim of honor killings. Her Turkish Muslim brothers allegedly gunned her down for adopting Western ways.
The shots came from nowhere and within minutes the young Turkish mother standing at the Berlin bus stop was dead.
A telephone call from a relative had brought her to this cold, unforgiving place. She thought she would only be gone for a few minutes and wore a light jacket in the freezing February wind. She had left her five-year-old son asleep in his bed. He awoke looking for his mother, who, like many Turkish women in Germany, harbored a secret life of fear, courage and, ultimately, grief. Now her little boy has his own tragedy to bear: His mother, Hatin Surucu, was not the victim of random violence, but likely died at the hands of her own family in what is known as an "honor killing."
Hatin's crime, it appears, was the desire to lead a normal life in her family's adopted land. The vivacious 23-year-old beauty, who was raised in Berlin, divorced the Turkish cousin she was forced to marry at age 16. She also discarded her Islamic head scarf, enrolled in a technical school where she was training to become an electrician and began dating German men. For her family, such behavior represented the ultimate shame -- the embrace of "corrupt" Western ways.
Days after the crime, police arrested her three brothers, ages 25, 24 and 18. The youngest of the three allegedly bragged to his girlfriend about the Feb. 7 killing. At her funeral, Hakin's Turkish-Kurdish parents draped their only daughter's casket in verses from the Koran and buried her according to Muslim tradition. Absent of course, were the brothers, who were in jail.
The crime might be easier to digest if it had been an archaic anomaly, but five other Muslim women have been murdered in Berlin during the past four months by their husbands or partners for besmirching the family's Muslim honor.
Two of them were stabbed to death in front of their young children, one was shot, one strangled and a fifth drowned. It seems hard to fathom, but in the middle of democratic Western Europe -- in Germany, a nation where pacifism is almost a universal mantra -- murderous macho patriotism not only exists but also appears to be thriving. It may even be Germany's liberalism -- and its post World War II fear of criticizing minority cultures -- that has encouraged ultra-religious families to settle here.
The problem is that much of this insular and ultra-religious world is out of public view, often hidden in inner-city apartments where the most influential links to the outside world are satellite dishes that receive Turkish and Arabic television and the local mosque. Tens of thousands of Turkish women live behind these walls of silence, in homes run by husbands many met on their wedding day and ruled by the ever-present verses of the Koran. In these families, loyalty and honor are elevated virtues and women are treated little better than slaves, unseen by society and often unnoticed or ignored by their German neighbors.
To get what they want, these women have to run. They have to change their names, their passports, even their hair color and break with the families they often love, but simply can no longer obey.
Turkish women who have fled their husbands and violent marriages and live in a shelter take a stroll in Munich's Olympic Park. The women, activists say, live in constant fear that their husbands or families will find them and abuse or kill them.Precise statistics on how many women die every year in such honor killings are hard to come by, as many crimes are never reported, said Myria Boehmecke of the Tuebingen-based women's group Terre des Femmes which, among other things, tries to protect Muslim girls and women from oppressive families.
The Turkish women's organization Papatya has documented 40 instances of honor killings in Germany since 1996. Examples include a Darmstadt girl whose two brothers pummelled her to death with a hockey stick in April 2004 after they learned she had slept with her boyfriend. In Augsburg in April, a man stabbed his wife and 7-year-old daughter because the wife was having an affair. In December 2003, a Tuebingen father strangled his 16-year-old daughter and threw her body into a lake because she had a boyfriend. Bullets, knives, even axes and gasoline are the weapons of choice.
The crime list compiled by Papatya is an exercise in horror. And the sad part, said Boehmecke, is that it is far from complete. "We'll never really know how many victims there are. Too often these crimes go unreported."
In many cases, fathers -- and sometimes even mothers -- single out their youngest son to do the killing, Boehmecke said, "because they know minors will get lighter sentences from German judges." In some cases, these boys are revered by their community and fellow inmates as "honor heroes" -- a dementedly skewed status they carry with them for the rest of their lives. Currently, six boys are serving time in Berlin's juvenile prison for honor killings. "In a way, these boys are victims, too," she said. Sometimes they are forced to kill their favorite sister.
I thank God Almighty for having me born as a Muslim not in these Arabs or some Muslim countries such as Jordan or Turkey.
I recently read yet another news about how a young woman was killed when she tried to escape from her family prostitution ring; she was made a prostitute. Like in some other similiar cases where the women tries to seek justice or freedom for themselves, she will be killed by her own flesh and blood. And the ones that will do the honour must be their own brother. All in the name of family honour and a form of 'cleansing'.
As usual, like in all man dominated countries, this young woman's brother was caught. The most disheartening yet true part is the sentence behind bars are for mere two years!
I you ask me, i would say life as a woman in these countries is very stifling and subservient. Like known fact, man have egos. But when the egos got too big for their head, plus with some 'known' attitude especially from certain clans, my only word to these lots are 'total male chauvanist pig'. These are the action that gave the religion bad reputations. These are also the people that think they are above women in everything except for bearing children and mending the house.
And amazingly although the human has been evolved and now living in this milleneium, the governments of these countries usually will not put emphasis on well being of their.
And Saudi Arabia is still a joke to me.
It show how shallow and silly their thinking is that women are created probably just to fulfill their sexual needs and bear offsprings besides staying at home to do nothing at all. What got their brain's blocked when they adapted the law against women driver since i dont know when.
There was a recent case where the daughter of a family drove the father and brother to the hospital when their house went ablaze. According to her statement to the press, the ER staff were stunned to see a woman coming out from the driver's seat.
The father was the one who thought her to drive in their own compound.
Well, at least the father has got more brains than some decision maker.
And do the ruler of the country thought that every one of them are as rich as him and can afford a driver.
Imagine if the household got more and three working and studying women with school going kids.....hhhmmmmmm......
It was also said that single working woman or student needed to fork-out around eight hundred to 1500 Riyals per month to pay driver to drive them around. Well, i know that this is a country i would not want to resides in giving all very strict restrictions against women. I would feel not second class but life is like a caged bird.
Now, it makes me wonder wouldn't these people are all Muslims?
Why did the Prophet Muhammad (saw) married a woman trader when he was one of her worker in his early years? It obviously shows that woman are allowed to do other things than being the man's pride and possession.
What would it take for their women to be living life to the fullest......