I'm in the midst of reading one of Tony Buzan's mind mapping book and came across an interesting subject and decided to refer my reading to one Kendra Van Wagner's write-up which later made me refer to my favourite subject of Psychology Hypnosis, mind secrets and mind controls which i can relate to a book by Danile Goleman i read in 2004, tittled DESTRUCTIVE EMOTIONS and How We Can Overcome Them, the same author of the best selling early 2000 Emotional Intelligence.
The former is a book based on his dialogue with The Dalai Lama in 2000, which touches among all, how the human mind is shaped, how impulses can be transformed and how otherwise they will threaten our safety and future.
What made me divert afar from my reading was the current situation that i am entangled in right now. Because of my boldness (self-claimed....), or like most Asians specifically the Malays called it 'out-spoken' i came out with a write up on an incident, which to date has more than four versions of stories going around (of course -- the winds whispers to my ears).
Because i was rudely ambushed, and later profoundly announced my hatred and dislikes of the animal-like attitudes here in my blog (which i know they kept track in order to find some fault with me), i was bad-mouthed, being labelled as a snob, and all sort of things, which again 'would not even have any affect on me as an individual' because i know what is right and what is wrong and who say this and who say that.
Futhermore, this is an 'expected-aftermath' when i decided to float the story via my facebook and log it in je ne Balance.
This is my way of experimenting with individual character surrounding me.
The most compelling thing about this whole scenarios is; no-one dare or chose to come right up to my face and asked me ;
1. what made me do so?
2. what went wrong?
3. why do i labelled them such?
4. what right they have to ambushed me and what was their actual motives in doing so
Although they must tried their best to defend themselves against any accusations, there was an approach made by one effected person , unfortunately, it was not made directly to me, and i am wondering why until now....i felt rather regretful that the person would not be able to understand the real situation but base only on stories acquired elsewhere. Leaving the mind to wonder endlessly wont be fruitful.
Nevertheless, i must make a note here that this is rather an interesting character to study on.
This person has a character which would be one of my highlights in studying and researching on human and their behaviour.
What made this person (which i do not want to state the gender in order not to be specific for readers to dwell on characters and behaviour of people/ person who presumbably in rage) refuse to approach the writer is still a wonder and i left it to my wild imaginations.....(i have loads of it by the way).
I believe, unsatisfied person or group of people tend to spend their quality time (as they put and believe so) in sticking closer together during 'trying times'. This is normal in any situation. There is a saying encouraging people to stick together during bad times (or as they believe so), in order for them not to be left alone in the 'disparagement zone', or opted for self- isolation after any embarrassing moments, or perhaps having the inclinations towards 'self-inflictions' acts.
Through this little 'support group' persons or people in group will tell and exchange stories among one another over and over again, right up to being a total 'make-believers' by making up stories, which will have a very deep unhealthy affect because when believing in something that does not exist at all, they will indirectly subscribing themselves tickets to mental instability.
With that unhealthy emotional situation, they will be haunted by the feeling of being unsatisfied about everything and everyone.
The only solution to settle this emotional turmoil is to go right back to the root of the situation. In other word, one have to go deep in getting to know the actual cause of it, besides putting themselves in different shoes to evaluates perceptions and actions.
What initiates the anger.
And what initiates people to retaliates to their behaviour.
A trip to good mental health doctors is advisable in this conditions.
Otherwise, this unsettled feeling and resentment will have a mirror -effect in long term.
Support group is a normal practice especially in the western world.
There are all sort of support group, i.e. support group for alcoholics, ex-addicts, shopaholics, emotionally crushed divorcee and even the latest one that i came across -- the France airlines survivors (those who didn't board the tragic airplane that crashed between Brazil and France), which in my modest opinion they should be feeling lucky rather than emotionally affected.
Analysing human is a very interesting subject.
This is one of the subject learnt in Psychology. It is so very wide and so elaborated.
Similar to the human brains created interestingly by our creator.
I am currently analysing these people attitudes and attributes which i will compile as my little own thesis -- For the meantime, enjoy reading one of Freud's theories which can be of assistance in facing multi-talented and multi-faceted human roaming nearby us and on this earth.
Au revoir!
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The Structure of the Mind According to Freud
By Kendra Van Wagner
Many of us have experienced what is commonly referred to as a Freudian Slip. These misstatements are believed to reveal underlying, unconscious thoughts or feelings. Consider this example:
James has just started a new relationship with a woman he met at school. While talking to her one afternoon, he accidentally calls her by his ex-girlfriend's name.
If you were in this situation, how would you explain this mistake? Many of us might blame the slip on distraction or describe it as a simple accident. However, a psychoanalytic theorist might tell you that this is much more than a random accident. The psychoanalytic view holds that there are inner forces outside of your awareness that are directing your behavior. For example, a psychoanalyst might say that James misspoke due to unresolved feelings for his ex or perhaps because of misgivings about his new relationship.
The founder of psychoanalytic theory was Sigmund Freud. While his theories were considered shocking at the time and continue to create debate and controversy, his work had a profound influence on a number of disciplines, including psychology, sociology, anthropology, literature, and art.
The term psychoanalysis is used to refer to many aspects of Freud’s work and research, including Freudian therapy and the research methodology he used to develop his theories. Freud relied heavily upon his observations and case studies of his patients when he formed his theory of personality development.
Before we can understand Freud's theory of personality, we must first understand his view of how the mind is organized.
According to Freud, the mind can be divided into two main parts:
1.The conscious mind includes everything that we are aware of. This is the aspect of our mental processing that we can think and talk about rationally. A part of this includes our memory, which is not always part of consciousness but can be retrieved easily at any time and brought into our awareness. Freud called this ordinary memory the preconscious.
2.The unconscious mind is a reservoir of feelings, thoughts, urges, and memories that outside of our conscious awareness. Most of the contents of the unconscious are unacceptable or unpleasant, such as feelings of pain, anxiety, or conflict. According to Freud, the unconscious continues to influence our behavior and experience, even though we are unaware of these underlying influences.
For further info please refer to www.freudfile.org.
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